Teaching “Practical Application of Intimacy Relationship Skills” in a Group Format and its Effectiveness on Couples’ Communication patterns in Marriage Threshold couples

Document Type : Original


1 MA in Family Counseling, University of Tehran, Tehran, Iran

2 Assistant Professor of Family Counseling, University of Tehran, Tehran, Iran

3 Associate Professor of Psychology, University of Tehran, Tehran, Iran


Purpose: The aim of present study was to examine the effectiveness of group training of Practical Application of Intimacy Relationship Skills on communication patterns in couples.
Methods: This study used a quasi-experimental method with pretest and posttest and control group. The study population included couples who have referred to Darab city health network. Statistical samples consist of twenty couples (forty individuals) that were voluntarily selected and randomly assigned to experimental and control groups. The measurement tool used was the Communication Patterns Questionnaire (CPQ). Participants took part in eight sessions of “Practical Application of Intimacy Relationship Skills”. The data was analyzed with covariance analysis.
Results and conclusion: The results of this research showed that group training of PAIRS program increased the mutual constructive communication patterns and reduces mutual avoidance as well as demand/withdraw communication patterns.


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