Phenomenology of Marital Attraction among Iranian Spouses: A Qualitative Study

Document Type : Original


1 Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, Azarbaijan Shahid Madani University, Tabriz, Iran

2 Professor, Department of Psychology, Kharazmi University, Tehran, Iran

3 Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, Kharazmi University, Tehran, Iran

4 Associate Professor, Department of Counseling, Kharazmi University, Tehran, Iran


Background: Attraction in the marital relationship is necessary to create interest between spouses. Different individuals and groups probably perceive and interpret marital attraction in different ways. Objective: The objective of this research was the phenomenology of marital attraction among Iranian spouses using a qualitative. Method: The participants were 17 Iranian women and men who had the experience of common-life with their spouses by purposive sampling with maximum variation (2016-2017). The data were gathered through semi-structured interviews by asking open questions about the research goals. The data were analyzed through Conventional Qualitative Content Analysis. Findings: According to the findings, the participants perceive marital attraction as a lovable and pleasant marital relationship. Marital attraction involves two main categories: attraction of spouse (including appearance, emotional, behavioral, intellectual, moral, and social attraction) and attraction of marital relationship (including consistency, joy, satisfaction, tranquility, and happiness). Conclusion: Studying the concept of marital attraction in other cultural contexts, providing an instrument for its assessment, using marital attraction conceptual dimensions in marital training, evaluating, counseling, and therapy, were suggested.


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