The Prediction of Marital Commitment based on Self- Conscious Affects (Shame and Guilt) and Self-Differentiation among Married University Students

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1 PhD Student in Counseling, University of Allameh Tabatabaee,Tehran, Iran

2 MA in Educational psychology, University of Tehran Islamic Azad


Purpose: The aim of present study was to predict marital commitment base on self–conscious affects (shame and guilt) and self- differentiation among married university students.
Methods: The research method was correlation. The research population was composed of married university students that studied at Central Branch of Tehran Islamic Azad University in academic year of 91-92.A total of 110 married university students were selected via simple sampling using Krejcie & Morgan (1979) sampling method. Data were collected using Differentiation of Self Inventory (DSI), Test of Self Conscious Affect (TOSCA-2), and Marital Commitment Questionnaire (MCQ). Data were analyzed using Pearson correlation and Enter and Stepwise multiple regression analysis.
Findings: Results showed that self-differentiation has a positive significant relationship with marital commitment (p<0/01), shame has a negative significant relationship with marital commitment (p<0/01) and these two variables was significantly predictive 36 percent of the variance of marital commitment. Also results showed that there is not a significant relationship between guilt and marital commitment and wasn’t significantly predictive of marital commitment.
Conclusion: So, it can be concluded that individuals with higher levels of self-differentiation and low levels of shame could experience more level of marital commitment.


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